I've been meaning to write this a long time ago....but just got lost in the daily buzz and lost track of time..however, the post is mostly aimed at the bold, independent and fearless girls and women all over :)
It all starts when we arrive onto this world tagged in baby blue or glittery pink and we're taught by our parents the rules of good behaviour designed for little boys and little girls, rules meant to guide us throughout the treacherous path of life that we're supposed to share as equally as possible with each others, guided by these invisible rules...nonetheless, as we grow up and we speed along this road we design (or not?) for ourselves, we start making our own rules....and this time the rules are based simply on our own state of heart and mind...at the beginning we're like tiny little pets taken out from our well protected cages and the first attempts at making our own choices are the days I like to recall as "Ennie Minnie Minie Mo" days...:) - what we would like mummy to prepare for dinner, we decide the school we want to go to...what college, what university to follow and basically we struggle to build brick by brick "the blueprints" towards our professional path...but although it's hard to admit, there's another thing that marks and shapes our road in life, we just need to acknowledge the fair share of the relationships we build - with others and with ourselves...and for those lucky enough to learn the lesson as it is served, these relationships are meant to help them grow up and most importantly, know how to go on :)
Relationships can be of every kind - there are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up a lot of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself...and if you can find someone to love "the you" you love, that's just absolutely fabulous :)
Why do I say this post is meant for girls and women especially? Because in the last couple of months I've too often had the feeling (after reading different blogs or articles) that some really wonderful girls forget who they really are because of a game we decided to join ourselves...and what's love if not a poker game? :)
And when randomly we come to sit on the "loser" chair we very often tend to forget how we got there. And at that exact same moment, most of us believe that what we really want is to dissapear..but what we really need is to be found...and the most wonderful thing that can happen is for you to find the "you" you lost; and when you do, it's like a whole new you - except this time it's 100 times stronger. Because, as they say, troubles, like a washing machine, twist us and knock us around; but in the end we come out brighter and better than before. Sooner or later, we all bump into this crossroads and never know which way to go, but we must remember that the choice is always our own and whatever happens, we can handle it. The starting point of maturity is the realization that no one is coming to the rescue!...everything we are and everything we will ever be is entirely up to us. And, yeah, it's true...sometimes you get no control over how others or life in general treats you...but there's no excuse for how we treat ourselves :)
While we keep hiding our mistakes as a sign of our weaknesses, we will never get the right answers in place. And what's even more sad is how we tend to ignore that mistakes, in fact, are the proof of our struggle and of our trying. Our lives are not determined by our mistakes but mostly by how we react to what happens to us and change only can happen when the pain of holding on is greater than the fear of letting go. And when you feel that particular moment -when your world is tumbling down- just go back to the basics: we cannot compel someone to stay with us forever, people don't come with price tags and therefore cannot be bought, real good love comes to those that are ready and not exactly those that are lonely and what's most important: forget about plotting your revenge - just sit back and wait; those that usually hurt someone will eventually screw up all by themselves...and if you are lucky enough, God will let you watch :)
Funny enough, in the end, we all agree, when standing on the other side of the bar, that the truth that hurts is the same truth that heals. I now understand the metaphor that lies beneath calling a girl "a pretty little fool" - you confide, you give you share, you tell the one thing that can hurt you..and in the end those whom we trust end up doing it perfectly! That's why, next time you're tempted to disguise by all possible means the message "Don't go, I need you in my life" reach towards your best friend (they say a friend knows when to hug you but your best friend knows when to hit you) and the message will definetely come across as : "Oh, she's just joking....just close the door on your way out" :) Then dust yourself off, let the air in and remeber: as we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down probably will; you'll have your heart broken probably more than once and it will be harder every time; you'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken; you'll blame a new love for things an old one did...but what we need to remember the most is that butterflies don't know the color of their wings, but human eyes know how beautiful these creatures are...likewise, we can never know how good we are but others can see that we're special...so you can mend and let your heart rest and even cry - it won't mean you're weak because even since the beginning, crying has always been a sign that you're alive (just remember to shut the blinds :) )
Bottom line is the choice is always there for you, you just need to open your eyes - get bitter or get better?
